As a Professional Dominatrix and lifestyle Domme, acquiring new skills and keeping up to date on best practices is critical. I’ve found the Austin BDSM community to be a wonderful resource! While I did not start My BDSM journey in Austin, I’ve grown the most in this city and owe much of that to the Austin BDSM community. Anyone who is involved in BDSM play, including My clients, will benefit from being a part of the community.
First, let Me clarify what I mean when I say “Austin BDSM Community”:
There are dozens upon dozens of clubs, recurring parties, munches, educational groups, and discussion groups in Austin that are devoted to specific kinks, certain roles (such as those only for submissives), or even limited age groups. There’s something for everyone. When I refer to the Austin BDSM community, I’m talking about all of those happenings and all of the people involved in them as a whole.
Second, let’s discuss the various reasons being involved in the community can be helpful/what goals lead people to seek out community:
Making friends with shared interests who aren’t judgemental about your extracurricular activities
Finding people who may want to engage in play with you
Seeking potential romantic partners
Learning more about the activities that interest you, including how to do them more safely
Broadening your horizons and being exposed to new things
It can feel intimidating to a novice player to sort through all of the options and then to actually *show up*, so I’ll be listing some good starting points later in this blog post. Before you can attend an event, you'll need to understand the behavior expectations though.
If you want to make a good impression in the Austin BDSM community, the most important thing you can do is respect people’s boundaries and be aware of consent. Basically, be on your best behavior. Keep in mind that people from all walks of life come together in this community.
Some basic guidelines:
Don’t touch people without permission- this includes hugs and other casual forms of touch.
If someone doesn’t appear interested in talking to you, move along.
Be polite and respectful.
Don’t assume someone’s role based on gender (for example, many men assume a woman is submissive by default).
Don’t assume someone’s gender! Ask people what pronouns they use and then use the correct ones.
Don’t out anyone as kinky. If you attend an event and see someone you know, don’t address them by their real name until you ask if that’s okay. Many people use aliases to protect themselves. If you see someone in a public setting who you met through the BDSM community, use discretion if you want to say hello and take into account who they are with at the time.
If you end up attending a party, pay close attention to the party rules and behave accordingly. Most Austin BDSM parties have printed rule sheets you must sign at entry and/or they verbally review the rules before the party starts. Show up on time for this if you are new to the BDSM community or have never attended that particular party before.
I’m going to list some of the more well-known BDSM groups, munches, and parties that I have experience with below. To get more information about these and to stay on top of upcoming events, you should join Fetlife - feel free to send Me a friend request. My username is PrincessPoison, of course.
Austin BDSM Recommendations:
Austin TNG (The Next Generation): TNG is for those under 35 years of age. They hold munches in North and South Austin and throw parties regularly. They are friendly and welcoming, and I’ve starred in and witnessed some incredible scenes at their parties. They typically do a demonstration at each party, so it’s a good way to learn new things as well.
Shrine ATX: This party is a joint venture between many groups in the Austin BDSM community and the swingers community. It’s a sex-positive event where you’ll see BDSM play as well as vanilla sex under one roof. The hosts are very welcoming and helpful and I’ve had a wonderful time there with My lover.
GWNN (Group With No Name): GWNN is a social and educational group that is open to all. They hold monthly munches, new member orientations, and parties. Their parties typically start with a class addressing a specific type of play.
SAADE (School for Austin Advanced D/s Education): SAADE is open to all, but their classes and parties typically focus on more advanced types of play. I can’t say enough wonderful things about them but if you are a newbie, their educational days may be a little much. For those of you who are more experienced and interested in edge play, check out their socials, classes, and parties.
ATXQ (Austin Texas Queer Kink): This group is just for queer-identified people and is trans-inclusive. If you are part of the LGBTQIA community, you are welcome! The only people who may not attend are those who are both heterosexual (straight) and cisgender. They hold munches and parties that are absolutely wonderful. [2024 UPDATE: ATXQ is no longer active]
This is not an exhaustive list, only a small sampling! There are many more groups in the Austin BDSM community. If you are interested in learning more, I urge you to create a Fetlife account- it’s anonymous and discreet.
It’s very likely that you may see Me out at an event hosted by one of these groups. Remember that I am there for education, community, and fun - don’t attempt to monopolize My time. A quick hello is just fine, as long as you don’t interrupt any play that I’m involved in. Use My session request form to request sessions- don’t try to arrange for play at a community event.
- Princess Poison